Wednesday, August 28, 2013

这就是爱情

23岁分手了,24岁好似不会恋爱了,25岁。。。26被家里逼着相亲。。当儿孙膝下的时候,猛然发现似乎爱情在生命中的份量没你想象的那么高贵

22 岁的时候,你换了工作,每个月一千多却花得反而是不够,你男朋友去了外地打工,你们两地分隔,他开始经常泡酒吧,他天天都有应酬,见惯了灯红酒绿,学会了 逢场作戏,每天玩到凌晨才睡,但睡前都记得给你发条短信说晚安。你生气时他会一直打你电话,跟你道歉。 

23 岁的时候,你和他最终还是分手了,因为距离,也因为外面的世界太精彩。于是你也学着泡酒吧,和小姐妹在酒吧的角落坐着,看着一桌桌的人玩着无聊的游戏,或 喝着无聊的酒,你觉得无趣,却后来还是会去酒吧。你换了工作,工作量大增,工资却还是没有涨多少,你往返与各个城市间,觉得疲惫却不想停下来。 

24 岁的时候,你好似已不会恋爱,你每周与小姐妹一起喝下午茶,周二与朋友一起看电影,经常在外面吃饭,基本上好的餐馆都去过,但却在工作上没多大的收获,老 板给你画着饼,你希望着,不过也不希望着,事业很迷茫,生活很单一。。。去了很多地方,你变得更忙,却不觉得累,你懂得边走边看看沿途的风景。 

25 岁的时候,你想停下来休息一下,你碰到了一个男孩子,让你觉得很温暖,你好像恋爱了。。。但是男孩子有他的纪念日,你不在他的故事里,他对你好像不错,可 是却永远不会记得主动跟你说晚安,他也爱泡吧,有很多兄弟,你却大多不认识。他也没来得急见你的那些朋友,他总是不冷不热,你对他来说可有可无。他QQ永 远是隐身的,你的照片他从不愿意放到他的空间,他说感情是两个人的事,原来他不敢让别人见证两个人的幸福或者是不幸吧。。。。 

他 手机总是调静音或关机,你最怕你给他打电话手机里听到说对不起,您拔打的电话暂时无法接通,他不会接你下班,你给他发短信别指望着能马上回你信息,他总是 神龙见首不见尾,你甚至觉得他是不是有女朋友,后来你知道,原来他有他的纪念日,后来你想起来,他说,其实爱不爱没那么重要了。。。。。 

有 一天你钥匙掉了,打了他好多电话没有接,原来他还在泡吧。。。。你很生气,因为他开始发短信跟你说他回家了,你很伤心,因为你在电话里哭他没有一句安慰的 话,第二天却像没事人一样,他只要有事,永远收不到他的电话或短信。。。。。你明白了,有了纪念日的人,不懂得爱别人。。。于是,你决定放弃了。。 

26 岁的时候,你家里人开始催你结婚,你开始去相亲,爸妈很喜欢他们朋友的儿子,要你们交往,于是你开始交往,你甚至无法形容出对方的容貌,因为你每次见面离 别时都对他没什么印象,原来,你也不再懂得爱人了,于是你结婚了。结婚后你才发现,爱一个人其实没那么重要,你有了孩子,你全心的只关心你的宝宝。    

27岁的时候,你碰到你前男友,原来他也结婚了,跟了他的纪念日女友。你发现他穿得很没品味,变得更黑了,你费解自己以前怎么会喜欢上他,你终于见到了他的纪念日女友,原来对方很不起眼,你终于明白原来是你太把自己当回事儿,原来你什么都不是。 

28 岁的时候,你已经淡忘了所有与爱情相关的东西,你开始算着如何提前还贷,你和你老公计划着换套再大点的房子能让双方老人家能常来住段时间,你愁着孩子的教 育问题,你又有了一个女儿,此时,你工作稳定,你以为你永远不会为了谁洗衣做饭,可是你现在下了班每天还是会去菜场买菜,只记得讨价还价,偶尔老公带你去 吃一次西餐,你还觉得他浪费钱。你再也不大手大脚的花钱,但却保持着一年一次的旅游。 

35岁的时候,你们换了大房子,也买了车子,提前还了大部分的贷款,不过为了宝宝上学的事情到处托关系,每周二跟小姐妹一起看场电影,周末偶尔喝个下午茶。谈论的话题永远围绕着孩子。   

55 岁的时候,你退休了,和老伴一起回老家开了一个小店,家里有个院子,种些花花草草。还种些自己爱吃的菜,你家有个池塘,傍晚你家老头总会在葡萄树下钓鱼。 儿子在国外定居了,女儿也做妈妈了。每个月回来看你们一次,小孙子,外孙子围绕在你的膝下奶奶奶奶的叫个不停。   

70岁的时候,你头发都白了,额头的发越来越稀了,孩子们只有过年过节才能过来看你们一下,你盼望着过节,越来越粘呼着你家老头,却总是看他不顺眼,你 偶尔还会找你家老头吹嘘一下:看我当年的文笔有多好,不做作家真当可惜。你家老头总是那句话:你这个老婆子就不能低调些,一大把年纪了。。。。。 

生命的轮回即将结束的时候,你不知道爱情在生命中的份量,你想说,其实一开始不相爱也没那么重要,只要有力气去爱,有力气再生活下去就是美好。。。。。

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Distance Love Ship


Long Distance Relationship isn’t always ideal. In fact, they’re really tough. You spend countless of hours just talking through a phone or through a screen. You can’t see the person when you want to or when you most need them. You can’t hug, you can’t hold hands, and you can’t kiss. You lose the intimacy in a physical sense. But then, your relationship becomes based on each other and nothing else.
You learn to communicate, because a long-distance relationship without communication is nothing.
You learn to trust, because you can’t always see or know everything the person is doing.
You learn to sacrifice, because someone’s always going to lose a bit of sleep from the time difference.
And lastly, you learn to appreciate.
So often, we take for granted the people and relationships in our lives because we think they’ll always be there.
But when you only have a limited amount of time with a person,
you learn to appreciate and cherish every single moment you have with them.
When you finally see that person after weeks or months of seeing them only through a computer screen,
It is one of the greatest feelings in the world.
When you've waited for something so long and you finally have it, you cherish it. The key to a long-distance relationship is faith.
If both of you are not willing to give up, if both of you are willing to stand up and still try after every time one of you or both of you fall.
“Distance isn't for the fearful, it’s for the bold ".
It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for the little time with the one they love.
It’s for knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough.”

Sunday, March 10, 2013

My Story - Her Words

一开始遇见时, 感觉像找到了灵魂的另一半, 童话爱情故事里自己当上了主角。这故事就上演了一年, 谁还记得是谁先说永远的爱我? 因为过了太久我们都不记得当初曾经让我为你融化的那些温柔。童话故事来到了边缘, 公主都走了, 他是否该划下句点。如果一个能够爱上你的一切, 却在最后嫌弃你的一切, 那就让他走吧。因为此人肯定不懂珍惜, 不管谁来到他的生命里, 他会豁出生命爱个死去和来, 在他习惯了别人令人可爱的优点之后, 又将他抛弃了。被抛弃的人请你别灰心, 不是你不够好, 不是你成不了他的茶, 是他喝不起你这杯茶, 是他不懂你苦中带甘的特色。总会有一天, 会有那么一个品茶人来到你面前, 不需要山盟海誓, 不需要你淘金献宝, 他会与你过一生。是你的, 怎么拆都拆不掉; 不是你的, 怎么留都留不住。爸爸说过一句名言: 爱情真的不需要轰轰烈烈的。

By: KANGKUNG YIYING EVELYN, a friend that I will thank God for arranging our meeting in life.

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Grow Old or Grow Up? You Choose!


We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day.

You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.

We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it! There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.

If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old.
If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.

Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change.
Have no regrets.
The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.

Friday, January 4, 2013

往事只能回味 =)


第一次出去 coffee island 吃了晚餐
Paradise beach - 曾经是你最爱去的地方,听海
第一次到我家 去吃了肉骨茶 然后车胎爆了 其实那时我第一次帮人换轮胎 可是还算成功
多亏文捷,我们彼此相处的时间多了,上课,吃饭,做功课,熬夜,看鬼戏 =) 
十二月假期,跟你家人去了云顶,这应该是我最开心的一刻吧,很爱你了!
新年前夕,我们吃了晚饭,开始准备到数。说了新年快乐,我抱了你,也多说了一句我爱你,你刮了我一巴掌,问我真的吗,我说真的,然后就这样我们开始了 =)
第二学期的开始,我们也开始同一组做功课,成绩都不错 =)
一天早上,你脸色凝重地出现在我面前,说你的房间进贼了,带你去报警,做了身份证,驾驶执照,买了新电脑
你每晚都很害怕,我也担心,最后决定搬家了
一天早上下雨了,你的车胎又爆了,我们只好穿着雨衣,在绵绵细雨下,骑着摩托车上学 =) 幸福,因为你一路都抱着我
搬到了 batu lancang 又是人生新的一页 美好的回忆
你说,在那儿有了自己家的感觉,好开心
菜市又很近, 你应该会时常下厨了 =) 终于有机会尝尝你的厨艺
果然,从家里搬来许多烹饪器材,好几天都吃了你煮的东西,幸福开心,虽然有时失败了 =P 
你们有吃过 韩国辛辣 ABC Spaghetti 吗? 我可吃过! =)
还有就是我二十年来都没吃过的‘罗汉斋’
突然间,你开始想减肥了,因为很多人说你增肥了 =P 我们开始放学后跑步,还记得小白,一只流浪狗,每次都会陪我们跑几圈 =)
我们也突然爱上了羽球,一星期都会打一次,我们两一组,文捷就每天换组人 =P
一天,你突然说要学骑摩托,我也让你学骑了。第一天,你开心的笑说!很容易,我一天学换一档! 一星期就会了! 果然,你会骑了
你父母会反对你骑摩托,我们想了一个理由,如果世界末日那天,前面只有一条很长的直路,旁边有一辆摩托,你们会要跑还是骑摩托? 哈哈 征服了 =)
第三学期,开始学喝酒了,很担心,因为你很容易醉,我告诉自己,不会让你一个人喝,我会陪你,可是我绝对不喝 =P 好几晚,你醉了,说了许多好笑的话,我放你回宿舍让你睡觉,隔天跟你说你所说的笑话,你终会说 ‘我没说!’ 可爱 
有时晚上,我们都空闲,就会骑着摩托,到 UPR 附近看人妖,顺便兜风,也会时常到旧关直角吃水果,兜到你累了,就自然会想睡觉 =)
Cocktail Presentation, 我们想了一个小插曲戏剧,以便娱乐大家,效果不错 =)
年终考试,我去了你家住一个星期,熬夜烧香,读得有点辛苦,可是拿到成绩时,觉得一切都值得 =)
最后,我最爱的时刻,难免是跟你拥抱的时候,你总会跳上来,把脚勾着我的腰,还问我‘我重吗?’ 可是我从来都没诚实的回答 =P
2013年1月1日, 我们彼此以男女朋友身份的最后一次晚餐,也是我们一周年纪念日 =) 
往事只能回味,回味时,我笑得特别开心,谢谢你,施琪。 我会勇敢地走向我的人生 =)

Thursday, January 3, 2013

People We Meet In Life =)

People changes spontaneously, environment around us changes spontaneously, a lot of things change just without our knowing, in order to fit ourselves in this CRUEL world, we cannot expect the world to become what we wanted it to be, we cannot change the world, we have to change our attitudes toward our life. The life that everyone in this world lives in. I have lived 20 years in this world, before this, i never had any thought on resolution of myself, I am truly satisfied with what I had, what I met and who I am. But the past year which is 2012, cannot be denied that I had a wonderful moment along this year, but things changed at the very last moment, which gave me a big lesson in life. We are all alone in this world, no one can be with us until the very last moment, even our own parents and families, we might be alone, when we are dead, even they have accompanied us for some times. People comes and goes, this should be happened, because we are on the Earth? Think positive! Live positive! =) Everything is not that bad actually!

When someone shows you who they are, you’re supposed to accept it, but sometimes we don’t want to. We want to believe that a person we care for can be better, so we hope that the ugly we saw was just a rare bad moment, and a flash of their unpleasant side. But when one incident turns into two, and two to three, and so on, we’ve got to stop kidding ourselves and accept the facts. It truly sucks when we thought we saw the sparkly glisten of a friendship or relationship, but it was nothing more than fool’s gold.